Now that I have more time the here is the continuation of my updated on X and N. X can be very challenging a times because of the brain trauma. I believe his memmory has definitely been affected. He sometimes has moments where he goes off into a daze and can forget what he is doing. I know I tend to do that sometimes, but it's different, you can almost tell he has nothing going on up there for those brief moments. I at least keep moving, but have too many things going on up there that I can't see straight!
Speaking of seeing straight - we ordered glasses for both X and N today because we went to the doctor Healthworks recommended and they will not get their glasses for 2-4 months because they are on medicaid and we were told that the correctional facility makes these glasses. If that's the case I would think that there would be a plethera of glasses to be had. Unfortunately, the inmates must be too busy getting their degrees on tax payers dollars. Such is life! The glasses we bought for them should be done tomorrow by 1pm.
I haven't even touched on our caseworker for X and N. This was his first case - need I say more! Basically this guy is delusional and all he sees is rainbows and butterflies for these kids. When we first met B (X and N's case worker) he was showering the boys with toys and picking them up for thier parent visits and it was really hard because all we ever heard from the boys was when was B picking them up, because they equated B with fun, food and fellowship with thier birth parents. Needless to say that came to an abrupt hault after this guy's case load got full. Now we are the one's picking up the pieces as to why the kids don't see another person they got attached to. B is very slowly giving us more and more information regarding X's accident report.
On top of the accident and all of the traumas that come along with that, we found out that X and N have a blood disease. It is not contagious it is hereditary, but again this means lots more doctors appointments and specialists. We had blood work done and the kids have the symtoms of the disease which their father said they had, but we have to take them to a hemotologist to confirm the findings.
This blog is seeming to be a little muttled, but I'm just trying to write down as I remember things from the boys first couple of months with us.
We did meet X and N's birth parents in court 2 weeks ago and they seem pretty nice. They seemed like monster's on paper, but meeting them made them real and we really are cheering for these parents to get their acts together and hopefully get X and N back. We never thought we were intended for foster care, we just thought we would do foster/adoption, but I believe the Lord is tryint to make it clear to us that we can do foster care. We've yet to experience a child leaving, but I'm sure the Lord will give us the strength to endure!
Saturday, November 29, 2008
New Kids on the Block!
Well 3 months has passed since my last post. We still have J, but now we have 2 more foster children. Things with J have pretty much stayed the same. No news is good news I guess. His BM has been admitted to the hospital a couple of times and been unable to make her visits and we are told it is no fault but her own so that can only be one of two things, she is not taking her medication or she is taking non prescription drugs if you know what I mean.
Our 2 new foster children are brothers who are 4 and 6. We will call the 4 year old N and the 6 year old will be X. We actually received a call on September 10th and our foster care specialist asked us if we would be interested in taking these 2 boys. We said we would like more information, but we would consider it. We got a call back and they told us they had already found a bilingual home for the boys, because we are not bilingual, however my parents are so we are considered for bilingual children if there are no other alternatives because my parents live behind us so the children would have Spanish exposure. Anywho, long story short the bilingual home fell through and on September 12th we were asked to take these boys and I had prayed about it that if the Lord wanted us to have these boys they would come to our home and so we had to say yes, because the Lord was definitely at work especially since there was another home in the process. That was the only catch the boys had to be moved ASAP so they would have to come to our home that very evening. I had a work outing to go see Wicked so my husband and my parents received the boys. When I got home that night the boys were already in bed so I could hardly sleep because I was soo excited to meet them. I asked my husband a bazillion questions about them, but I had to see them for myself. I did ask my husband if they asked if either of them wet the bed and they had not, so sure enough when we woke up the next morning the little one N had wet the bed. So began our journey with X and N!!!!
We have had X & N for over 2 months now and have done the whole gammit of check-ups ie: shots, dentist, eyes. X was 2 years behind on his shots and N was 2 months behind. We thought only N would have a problem with his eyes because he has a crossed eye, but it turns out X has 20/50 vision and needs bifocals!!! Remember he just turned 6. Anywho, we are finding a lot out about X that we could not tell at first. We recently found out he was in a car accident when he was 2 and N was 2 months. X, however got the brunt of the accident and had moderate brain trauma, a broken pelvis and a broken humorous. He was in the hospital for a month and then in rehabilitation for a month and now we find out he has had an IEP done and Occupational therapy that he should be having as well as speech/language therapy he should be having. At first we thought maybe he was just neglected and no one ever worked with him on numbers and letters and getting dressed, until now we see N passing him up on all of the same things they are learning at school.
to be continued . . .
Our 2 new foster children are brothers who are 4 and 6. We will call the 4 year old N and the 6 year old will be X. We actually received a call on September 10th and our foster care specialist asked us if we would be interested in taking these 2 boys. We said we would like more information, but we would consider it. We got a call back and they told us they had already found a bilingual home for the boys, because we are not bilingual, however my parents are so we are considered for bilingual children if there are no other alternatives because my parents live behind us so the children would have Spanish exposure. Anywho, long story short the bilingual home fell through and on September 12th we were asked to take these boys and I had prayed about it that if the Lord wanted us to have these boys they would come to our home and so we had to say yes, because the Lord was definitely at work especially since there was another home in the process. That was the only catch the boys had to be moved ASAP so they would have to come to our home that very evening. I had a work outing to go see Wicked so my husband and my parents received the boys. When I got home that night the boys were already in bed so I could hardly sleep because I was soo excited to meet them. I asked my husband a bazillion questions about them, but I had to see them for myself. I did ask my husband if they asked if either of them wet the bed and they had not, so sure enough when we woke up the next morning the little one N had wet the bed. So began our journey with X and N!!!!
We have had X & N for over 2 months now and have done the whole gammit of check-ups ie: shots, dentist, eyes. X was 2 years behind on his shots and N was 2 months behind. We thought only N would have a problem with his eyes because he has a crossed eye, but it turns out X has 20/50 vision and needs bifocals!!! Remember he just turned 6. Anywho, we are finding a lot out about X that we could not tell at first. We recently found out he was in a car accident when he was 2 and N was 2 months. X, however got the brunt of the accident and had moderate brain trauma, a broken pelvis and a broken humorous. He was in the hospital for a month and then in rehabilitation for a month and now we find out he has had an IEP done and Occupational therapy that he should be having as well as speech/language therapy he should be having. At first we thought maybe he was just neglected and no one ever worked with him on numbers and letters and getting dressed, until now we see N passing him up on all of the same things they are learning at school.
to be continued . . .
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